My advances were rejected by the court reporter of my brother’s deposition. Concerned for his case.

What you did was inappropriate, but it won’t affect your brother. The court reporter will never date you, even if she might have been interested if she came across you in another setting.

You crossed a boundary. She was working and you took info that was provided under those circumstances, and made it personal.

Apologize for overstepping and never do that again.

"Being single for 5 years makes a man do such things."

Let's rewrite that sentence: "Being a creep makes a creep do such things."

And then men wonder why women don't want anything to do with them.

The worst case... if they utilize this court reporter again they will be adamant that you not be present.

If it was the Defense that was taking the deposition then they would have hired her.

I was a paralegal for both civil and criminal matters. As such.... CR are hired from 3rd party agencies who's only task is to take a verbatim recording of the court procedure... in this case the depo.

It won't affect the case but you'll look like an idiot and I'm sure she'll tell others. Lol.

As I said. The worst case may be that she advises the Defense counsel that you wrote and email and basically asked her out.

Seriously, what is wrong with you. Not only creepy and inappropriate, but you didn’t even bother to wait for the court case to conclude or check if your actions could compromise your brothers case.

Selfish. Also immature to blame it on “being single for 5 years”. It has nothing to do with being single or for how long, and everything to do with who you are and the choices you make.

Be better.

Many things are wrong with you, but your inability to take accountability for your gross actions and blaming it on being single is one of them. Honestly you don't even sound like you understand how disgusting your behaviour was, your whole post screams of "please tell me I did not do a very bad" .

If you want to stop being single how about you start respecting women, treating them like human beings, and not harassing them at work? That's the bare minimum and you don't even meet that right now.

It almost certainly won’t affect your brother’s case, but it was monumentally stupid. The small outside impact I could see it having is it could raise the question of whether your brother perjured himself. Usually when they give the admonitions, they ask if anyone else is in the room with you, and insist you be alone. The concern is someone could be feeding you answers somehow. Like imagine you standing behind your brother’s computer with your own computer holding up flash cards only you can see.

If your brother testified under oath that he was in the room alone, and you were sitting on the couch listening the whole time, the he perjured himself, and that was stupid on his part. But usually when they ask if you’re alone, it’s before the oath, and it’s unlikely it would be picked up on.

Charlie Harper would have scored.

You are just a puppy trying to run with the big dogs.

Hi! Court reporter here, I promise she most likely does not/will not care unless you continue to message or harass her. Most of us work freelance and take depots and trials from private law firms or state/county court rooms. Usually a trial by trial basis and usually with our own personally determined pay grade And all we do is transcribe, I promise we do not have the time or energy to add our input into the case other than to read back something that we recorded and is relevant. If anything she’s probably giggling with her gfs about “this guy from a trial I’m working on hit on Me”

TLDR From another court reporter, I’m 99.99% sure that you are totally fine

"Voice of angels and demons" has me worried. That statement is so overly melodramatic. It doesn't make the situation any less inappropriate. I've known people in my life that talk about crushes this way, and it's accompanied by some unhealthy focus. I'm curious who talked you into messaging her as well. You should not be taking advice from that person, there are several thing wrong with the logic that rationalizes these kinds of actions.

You have basically invaded her privacy by taking advantage of an opportunity at her place of work to note personal information. The email that was provided in court was most likely a work related email, so there is likely a permanent record in some legal offices capacity. Most women do not appreciate their contact information randomly being obtained by strangers, and it doesn't start a conversation from a position of honesty and trust. Chances are if you were really drunk that email was not composed as well as you think, this was never going to be a path to what you wanted.

I'd be guessing there are other events that happen when you're drinking that lead to regret or remorse for your actions. If there are, I would encourage you to take some time to reflect on your relationship with alcohol.

Every computer and cell phone should have a built-in breathalyzer. If you attempt to send an email or text after 11:00 PM you should have to blow into the breathalyzer and if you are intoxicated, the email/text will not be sent until you've had a chance to review it while sober.

This million $$ idea is my gift to the human race. Big Tech, feel free to steal it.

Lucius Dickus Maximum

Was this an attempt to succeed?

The Singledom is calling you back. You're not ready to leave.

As penance, please read up on women's rights.

Also, please do not post this woman's email. It's private and it also identifies you. No need to be a moron twice.

Thinking with the little head, you fuckmuppet.

And LuciusDickusMaximus?? To a court reporter?

Do you even realize the trouble you could get yourself in??? JFC grow the fuck up.

She sent back a rejection that was so professionally cutting it still stings

Translation: you're not the first person to send her an email.

Court reporter here. Admittedly male and do not have to put up with certain things my colleagues have happen to them.

While no one can predict the future perfectly, the chance of it impacting anything is basically nothing.

I suppose the best rule is if you wouldn’t do it at your work don’t do it to somebody at theirs.

This is the dumbest thing I’ve heard in awhile. Let me go through the facts.

1. You acquired a womans email you don’t know and never met through nefarious ways?
2. You contact this woman through her professional email not knowing if this would effect your brothers case that you share a studio apartment with?
3. When you were rejected you try to blame this incredibly stupid and creepy action on a 5 year celibacy?
   4. You go to a public forum to check how bad you have already fucked over your brother? Is this correct? If so I’m appalled, even for Reddit this is dumb!

"...my brother brought a suit against a big corporation whose product...left him less of a man..."

"...The court reporter was a smoke show, exactly my type..."

CHARLIE HARPER LIVES!

My guy you gotta learn to masturbate BEFORE you do stuff like this.

Also please get therapy, even being single 5 years that is not normal.

You are an idiot wow, just wow. I looked at your posting history...says you are a rising senior in high school in one post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TooAfraidToAsk/comments/14y1c17/should\_you\_know\_anatomy\_in\_elementary\_school\_if/

But another says you work for an import/export company...https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/14yzztj/aitah_for_refusing_to_clean_the_company_microwave/

Very sus!

As others say its unlikely that your brother would get in trouble. Having a dumass for a brother isn't exactly a crime. But dude, that is so creepy.

Maybe send her an e-mail thanking her professional reply and tell her you now realize that you massively overstepped your boundaries and that will never happen again.