April 24th, 2024
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Regretting pressuring her into an open relationship… didn’t think it would be like this
Got this text from my SO last night at 11pm
April 24th, 2024
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hatemyself100000
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Thebaldsasquatch
Is this the same girlfriend who’s also your boyfriend that loaded the same dishes in the dishwasher twice?
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hatemyself100000
Poly works for a lot of people dont spread misinfo
Heavy-Cranberry-3572
Yes there's dozens of you!!! Dozens!!
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EntertainmentEasy251
lol
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[deleted]
Poly and open require a lot more communication than this situation. People say “open” and then lay zero foundation, are unclear, don’t know what the impacts will be, etc. Same with Ethical Non-Monogamy. It requires a lot more than what’s going on here.
The average person isn’t bothering to do the necessary work and/or underestimate the impact. I’d argue, it’s actually pretty salient and observably factual information. And yes, I know people IRL who’ve attempted and in every case, it has failed.
Could it succeed? Of course, but most people are terrible communicators, over-estimate their emotional capacity, and/or are using it as a vehicle to just cheat without consequence.
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hatemyself100000
Yup. These people arent emotionally mature enough for poly.
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napsandlunch
that’s usually a pre-existing component of a relationship though. some couples can transition from monogamy to include other partners, but i wouldn’t necessarily see this as polyamory or ethical nonmonogamy bc this was essentially coerced
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LuciusDickusMaximus
We will survive this. Just need to have a talk and close it back up. Thanks though.
bigmuffin77
Have to close it back up as soon as she benefits from it when you don’t?
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[deleted]
typical man move. open it then close it when SHES benefiting instead of just you.
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[deleted]
😂😂 why because she found someone to hook up with and you didn’t?
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Zestyclose_Fern
lol
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Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I meant something entirely different by open than she did.
whiteshark21
What did you mean?
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Salt_Radish_63
OP thought they could only “ethically” cheat. Not the other way around.
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LuciusDickusMaximus
No.
Much_Section_8491
OP is making shit up for Reddit.
You know people can see your post history? Lmao fucking unhinged
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[deleted]
He meant he could do what he wanted but she could not
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I meant for no feelings to get hurt
whiteshark21
An open relationship without hurt feelings is close to impossible, especially if you had to pressure one side into it. Have a chat with her and try to call it off, but she's gonna (correctly) realise you're just jealous she's getting laid when you're not and might just break up with you instead
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[deleted]
No see he knows that he was just hoping she would be the one with her feelings and not him
Now that it’s not happening that way he wants to call it off. I hope she leaves him
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Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
lol what? Then you shouldn’t have opened the relationship. You’re the one who CLEARLY can’t handle it. You either thought you had thicker skin than you do, or you genuinely didn’t think she’d have the opportunity to hurt your feelings because she wouldn’t take advantage of the open relationship. How old are you? This is screaming the emotional maturity of a 17 year old.
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throwawayatsbs
You know that's not answering the question, dude.
They were asking what you thought "open relationship" meant, since you say you had a different meaning of "open" than your GF did.
You keep dodging this question, which we can only assume is because you know that you DIDN'T actually have a different meaning of "open", and you're just being a shitty, manipulative asshole.
Or, if I'm wrong, answer the question and actually explain how "open" meant something different for you than it did your GF, and if you can't, really think about why that is.
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trvllvr
Just your feelings getting hurt, you didn’t care about her feelings. You wanted an open relationship, well guess what it goes both ways. So, you have to accept she will meet and hook up with others and too bad if it hurts your feelings.
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[deleted]
Can you show me where in this text you posted that your feelings got hurt?
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Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
Well that sounds like your fault for not properly communicating what you wanted/meant.
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[deleted]
Is your SO a he or she? Because your post history is confusing.
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LennoxTheDurgon
You two should have talked more clearly about what open means to each of you and set better boundaries. It only works if you're both on the same page.
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Impressive-Foot7698
Define it then
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unclejoe1917
Open relationship only means one thing and that's freedom to date/sleep around. You thought you'd be the only one doing the sleeping around, didn't you?
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EmptyPomegranete
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Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
Yeah, I’m loling over here.
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Thanks. Glad this amuses you.
Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
It does. This is hilarious. If my bf had tried to pressure me into an open relationship, I would have laughed in his face and lost his number. This is the other option, right? Giving in and having the open relationship? You wanted this.
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I was humiliated. Asking me to send a picture of me holding a sign and a spoon as I’m winding down for the night?
bgthigfist
Maybe you have an undiscovered cuck fetish?
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Goof_Troop_Pumpkin
How is that humiliating? I thought it was a funny way to ask for proof for your SO’s potential boo. Was it humiliating because you felt like less of a man or something?
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Ingoiolo
Well, I guess knowing she is fucking someone else that very moment hurts a bit more… but that’s still what she might be doing when out without you.
That’s the deal you pressured her to accept
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Ionami
I get that, that would be really painful and I am sorry you're going through this - but as others have pointed out, this is why open relationships are almost always a terrible idea. (Rare instances of it working but that's definitely the exception not the rule.)
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[deleted]
It’s just so goddamn cliché and predictable.
Guys like you are delulu
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Horror-Possible5709
Op is a woman
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EmptyPomegranete
Yes? Where did I use he? I’m well aware.
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[deleted]
OP is full of shit. Look at their account. They’re married to a woman, they’re dating a man, they’re engaged to a man, they have kids, they can run 60 mph…. The list goes on.
This is fake ragebait. Theyve also reposted this into r/leopardsatemyface themselves lol
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WonkyDonky21
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QuriousiT
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SweetSonet
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LennoxTheDurgon
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inbetween-genders
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ebelbrezel
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GroundbreakingEar667
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SockFullOfNickles
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Thebaldsasquatch
OP is full of shit. Just posted last week complaining their boyfriend loaded the same dishes in the dishwasher twice.
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hatemyself100000
You know lesbians exist
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SevenTrickPony
The bio says it's a Commune Account, so post history is probably by a bunch of different ppl
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SevenTrickPony
Fair point, didn't catch that when looking it up
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hatemyself100000
People have time to go through ppls post history? Lol
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hatemyself100000
I was on my lunch break, stay mad 😊
I suppose I should say people actually care about post histories? Who gives a fuck
necromanticpotato
A lot of people on reddit use post histories to confirm the legitimacy of a current post. It's not uncommon. "Stay mad" - calm down and enjoy your lunch break.
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ohnotchotchke
what? next you're gonna tell me dinosaurs existed XD
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[deleted]
It’s delicious it always plays out this way these dudes think they are something hot, then they find out that they aren’t all that and they have a tantrum because she’s having fun and they aren’t
Oh boo-hoo poor little man baby isn’t quite as popular as he thought he would be
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Horror-Possible5709
I think op is a woman?
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yourenotmy-real-dad
OPs post history has them absolutely shitposting everywhere from any gendered direction. This isnt even real.
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Horror-Possible5709
Yeah I noticed that too.
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FormerlyDannyp425
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[deleted]
Oh yes he literally meant that he should be getting laid and she should be having the hurt feelings
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FormerlyDannyp425
Like what other definition of open relationship is there? 😂
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PracticalShoulder916
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enjoyinc
So you’re the reason OP posted this there, I came here from the LAMF post trying to understand why she posted there and it makes sense now lmao, I still think this is a troll post but I take every post on Reddit with a grain of salt
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PracticalShoulder916
Guilty lol
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enjoyinc
Even if it’s fake, I’m glad you did cuz this is funny lol
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Undead_General
This is so funny he actually posted this there and tried to pretend to be someone else
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PracticalShoulder916
Just to add, op posted this on the lamf sub with the title 'what did you expect'..
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SynnerSaint
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bgthigfist
It's part of the "prove the photo is right now" thing people sometimes do. In the past it would be "holding up today's newspaper*
It's not the spoon specifically, it's an unexpected object that you wouldn't normally be holding in a picture. If you asked a chef for a picture of themselves holding a spoon, it wouldn't be the same.
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SynnerSaint
Ahhhh - thanks
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