May 25th, 2024
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I used to fabricate Venmo transactions to make my social life appear vibrant. It backfired. Ama.
When I was in college I would venmo popular people at my college $15 with a memo like “🍕” or “☕️” so my transaction history looked like I was hanging out with them. Got caught for it and basically branded a loser on campus social media. Three years of trauma processing later I’m ready to talk about it. Ask me anything.
May 25th, 2024
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Chemical_Spray699
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Well I figured someone receiving $15 for free would be like “mum’s the word.” Not so.
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Chemical_Spray699
If you earning that money yourself i assume you had an extremely ez task to score them checks in little time?
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I’m independently wealthy
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srs328
How so? My first guess for an independently wealthy college dude would be crypto, but I’m curious what other avenues there are
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oddtiming
Lol, hate to disappoint, but if a young person says they are "independently wealthy", most of the time it means "my wealth doesn't depend on me working," aka "I have rich parents".
Their first reflex to make friends being "I can buy my way in" is a pretty good give-away.
Otherwise could be a young entrepreneur, but as insufferable as these people are, they're usually interesting, so I doubt they would be struggling to make friends.
Maybe OP can refute that, but if he doesn't, feel free to draw your own conclusions ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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LuciusDickusMaximus
This is pretty much it
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oddtiming
And now that you've "said it our loud", do you honestly feel that you are independently wealthy? You don't need to answer, just think about it. See this as my own answer as to why you may have struggled to make friends, and why you will keep doing so until you understand this: you were born rich, you will have been born rich until the end of time.
If I could sniff you out in writing, imagine how much everything you are was shaped by your wealth. Unless you've made some herculean efforts of empathy, you will have no idea what common struggles might look like for people who were not born in your situation.
From your messages, it sounds like like you're really, really far off from grasping just how different (to not say "how much easier") your life has been relative to the vast majority of people.
Now try to deconstruct it all, and ask yourself again when you've made some strides!
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boomslangs
"Independently wealthy" is a standard phrase that's already a euphemism for "has family money"; that's what the phrase means
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oddtiming
Is it actually? Huh, I thought it was meant to say "I don't have to work anymore".
TIL, thanks!
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Out*
Fix your typo(s) and I’ll read the rest of your essay
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oddtiming
No, I don't think I need to. You've exemplified my point better than I could ever have!
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MapleKerman
This guy
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ramones365
So you haven't changed much since college, huh.
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[deleted]
insufferable, i must say
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Feisty_Rugrat_3267
Holy moly, chill
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oddtiming
kk
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[deleted]
dawg you sound really jealous rn, stop this malding pop psychology bit let the dude enjoy his family money
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oddtiming
kk
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oddtiming
kk
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pondiriver
waiting for OP to angrily respond…
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srs328
Maybe I’m being optimistic, but if I see a young person say “independently wealthy,” I assume they specifying “independently” to make a distinction that it’s not due to parental help, because otherwise I don’t know what else the “independently” is supposed to mean.
But it’s irrelevant hear because from his history, seems OP just makes up random shit on Reddit. The other month he was apparently still in college and had a boyfriend in a frat
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Yuhwryu
independently wealthy means you are independent and do not have to work
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oddtiming
Sure, but the vast majority of the time, it means you never had to work; if you did, you wouldn't be using such a delibaretely vague term, since you'd have nothing to hide in a society which values "hard work" to a fault.
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beluuuuuuga
lmao crypto ain't getting no college kids to wealthy status
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srs328
Not now, but there are probably some insanely lucky college students who got rich off crypto in the late 2010’s
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[deleted]
lol, why are you re-stickering post its (as a manager it costs more in labor to do this) and failing as a paralegal crying in the bathroom?
This account is a joke.
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langellphoto
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srs328
What are some experiences you had being on campus after you were exposed? Did people come up to you and say things? And what types of rumors were people spreading about you
Edit: 49 days ago you made a post about your “boyfriend” having to do something for a frat ritual, yet this post is saying that you had years since college to process. Something’s fishy
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ReasonedBeing
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Jazzlike-Cat9012
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trueGildedZ
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obeseelise
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MNDFND
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thfor
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Sqm0
No because this person is roleplaying. Look at their post history.
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TheThiccestR0bin
It really is odd that this is how someone would roleplay. Like "I'm a total friendless freak", like if this is what they pretend to do Id hate to think what they're actually like.
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Sqm0
I kinda get it though, this is a really funny lie. The dedication to RPing is just baffling to me lol
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Yes!
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Bubbly_Airport754
Let’s be honest - you’re a weirdo who constantly makes up stories on Reddit for internet validation.
Seek help
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trollingguru
Giving away money to randos to look cool?
Pro tip
Cool people don’t worry about being cool that’s what makes them cool.. over obsessing over things like the perception of being cool is lame.
Just talk to people like normal.
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ThisBKat
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Cremede-laCreme
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felt_like_signing_up
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Potstickers
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I_still_got_it
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mrmonopolymoneybags
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drywalleater05
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False_Researcher6326
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Upper_Egg1015
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medmedhat
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[deleted]
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MysticMandrill
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cave18
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SolidUnlucky1959
SolidUnlucky1959
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I don’t do that shit anymore, friend.
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Crepes_for_days3000
Well, I will accept your $20 venmo, I am really cool and will get pizza with you.
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CrazyGunnerr
Good, because I don't have venmo. So what do you use now?
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FAlady
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LuciusDickusMaximus
We had never interacted unless you count the transactions
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FAlady
Oh, dear.
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MNDFND
I'm confused(don't know how Venmo works but wouldn't you need their number or email ?
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[deleted]
jeez
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fatnow2022
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I felt like I could use it as an in to actually get into cooler social scenes on campus. State school was a hard scene for someone like me and it felt like no one who was anyone wanted to do with you unless you could name drop who you hung with
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fatnow2022
So it was like you were trying to have a record of being associated with the right people as a form of social proof? I can follow the logic there for sure. But why venmo of all things?
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I didn’t think anyone would suspect this since it was so odd
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WrecktheRIC
How small was this school that everyone knew the “cool” few kids?
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MNDFND
I could maybe understand in jr high or high school but college? Time to grow up find yourself and your people.
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DIYnewbpanwoodrakguy
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LuciusDickusMaximus
One person I was claiming to hang out with exposed me on social media for being a stalker and had me black listed from all Greek life. Having all the frat and sorority people knowing your name as “stalker at worst, friendless loser at best” was really horrible considering I was at a state school
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Forlorn_Cyborg
Goodlord I thought you were going to say you photoshopped Venmo transactions.
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MNDFND
What did you expect ? It's creepy.
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_oreocakesters
lmao good. fucking weirdo
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[deleted]
could you tell me how a state school affects this situation, im not from the usa
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CulturalApartment579
He’s being classist. This guy comes from a wealthy background as he’s stated elsewhere in the post and because of this he thinks that a school full of “poor people” is basically the jungle and he has to venmo random people money in order to be accepted for whatever reason.
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Action_Bronzong
This sounds like some extremely manipulative sociopathic shit. I would be so extremely off-put by someone doing this just to lie to me.
It shows a lack of respect for other people, in that you think they deserve to be manipulated, and that you believe the people around you are stupid enough to not figure this out.
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Thanks. I’ve already come around to realize this. I was mentally ill.
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wallywestistheflash
Was? Brother you probably still are
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nickisdone
How did he even get their venmos.... I'm not familiar with that up but how did even know it was going to the right person
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optionalhero
The way venmo works, it shows you a bunch of peoples venmo history. So when you open it up you can pretty see all your friends or people you know on it venmo history. So you can just click on their profile very easily and send/request money
There’s people i genuinely haven’t interacted with since high school that pop up on my venmo feed. So its sorta interesting to see what people are doing / spending their money on.
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nickisdone
So how would they be in his history tho or deos it show people nearby as well?
I get b it could be using saved phone numbers too but it seems op was not that close withthese people at all just literally picked the popular kids in his mind.
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optionalhero
Im not close with people from high school nor do i have their numbers. Yet the app still shows me their transaction history. No idea how it knows.
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PcMasterRaceJose
you can click through a mutual friend's profile on venmo
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Systonce
What shitty system is this? Why would I want people to know who I sent cash to?
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[deleted]
yeah seems a bit too much, why would i want people to know what im spending money on
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Sea_Technology_8922
I know what he did was stupid and really strange but this is such a useless comment.
he literally says that he got help and understands that what he did is weird. Absolutely dragging him and calling him manipulative and sociopathic isn’t necessary.. and you didn’t even ask a question at the end.
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ravia
Dude, cool your harsh.
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chatterwrack
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jnyrdr
i just recently found out that your venmo history is usually set to public and people actually look at it. a friend was talking about watching a recently divorced couple divvy everything up via their transactions. weird.
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cahlinny
Yikes. TIL.
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boomslangs
Venmo tries to make itself into a FOMO machine by having that public feed of transactions. Presumably so that people go, "Wait, why are all my friends venmoing Trevor for tacos? I wasn't invited?" IDK if young people use it that way but apparently so, given this post
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mchalla3
people definitely do! I heard people talk about it that way when i was in college — though nobody thought to do something as crazy as OP.
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[deleted]
ahh that makes alot of sense
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bmd33zy
mchalla3
lol, i’ve heard stories from mutual friends that people have figured out that their partners are cheating on them through public venmo transactions. It’s so dumb too, because you can make your transactions private.
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ECoco
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I tried and didn’t have success. It wasn’t til recently until I realized that the way to remedy that wasn’t manipulation.
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ravia
It's not manipulation, but don't think that people aren't often just lucky and advantaged. Your wanting to that is at least understandable.
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asphyxiate
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FAlady
Cuz he’s bullshitting
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[deleted]
heard state schools a couple times on this thread and decided to look up how big they are, arizona state had 80000 fucking enrollments in one year, thats insane!
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kankurou1010
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tap_a_gooch
Definitely fake unless they have a wife, boyfriend, kids, and they are in college and drive a school bus according to their account over the past year.
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ThatGuyGetsIt
This post is about them owning up to being a psychotic pathogical liar so it sort of tracks.
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followyourogre
Don't forget the girl they convinced to be in an open relationship, and the fiance who proposed using construction workers. Oh and they were a teen one month but had two kids old enough to order ice cream by themselves the next month.
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followyourogre
I actually had a lot of fun reading all of their creative writing exercises. You're not a bad writer, Op, but actual real life therapy and a hobby may help focus some of that energy
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No-Intention4937
https://www.reddit.com/r/RedditPCAs/s/kjCZ9baQla
Feel like this is bs in itself but apparently it’s a communal account accessed by many individuals, pretending to not be Pakistani as to not arouse suspicion?
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Goudinho99
I mean since you are the only one with access to your Venmo history,you should've just added fake shit in your Google calendar:-)
You doing okay today? Hope your social life has a little more vibrancy in it these days!
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whatthepfluke
Nah, unless you have it set to private, everyone on Venmo can see all transactions.
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ACoderGirl
Non American here. Do people normally do that or normally look at the transactions?
It just feels so weird to me. The Canadian equivalent, Interac e-transfers, are just as private as giving someone a cheque. I can't imagine people wanting others to see their e-transfers. It'd be so creepy.
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Goudinho99
I had no idea ,that seems wild to me!
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whatthepfluke
yeah, I keep mine on private and so do most people I know.
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Cereborn
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JakePedro34
I know when Venmo started to blow up a few years back my friends and I would go through and look at transactions occasionally just to see who was interacting with who. A lot of the times seeing a girl venmo a guy or vice versa and being like “ooo, looks like so-and-so are talking” keep in mind we were like 18-19 year old freshman in college. Again it wasn’t like we were checking it frequently like it was a social media but whenever we had to Venmo someone else we’d look through the transactions.
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Puzzleheaded_Log2257
I got into this subreddit because of a screenshot of this post i saw on an instagram memepage. Insane thing to do, hope you do better now !
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LuciusDickusMaximus
Link? Why are people posting this?
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Bubbly_Airport754
Because you’re a weirdo.
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Slack_Irritant
Lmao!
Respect for just calling it like it is.
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casualiama-ModTeam
You are not contributing to the discussion and/or you are being a nuisance or a troll with your comments and/or post.
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Rudyjax
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LuciusDickusMaximus
I really tried to get into them but their sound is a little too out there.
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Rudyjax
To each his own.
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Greedy_War_8162
Sounds like you have a pattern of desperately trying and failing to get into things that are above you lol
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