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March 20th, 2025

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/r/AITAH

1 year ago

AITAH for not being as attracted to my gf after seeing her baby photos?

I recently moved in with my girlfriend to a prefurnished apartment that I specifically picked out because the place was already decorated in a way that made me feel at home. Probably a hot take but I hate the labor involved with acquiring new furniture and art work to transform an empty box into my den. I’d rather that already be done. I thought my girlfriend felt the same way, but a couple weeks after we moved in she started changing things. For example, I came home from work one day and the dining room chairs were changed. That didn’t bother me at all, because I wasn’t doing the work, and hey, if the interior deco shit brings her joy, I’m all for it.

But then, the art work over the fireplace was replaced by the 5x10ft portrait of a baby that, let’s just say, looked disformed and malnourished. I asked my girlfriend about it and she said it was a painting her parents had sent us that they had made, which depicted her as she was a few days after arriving home from the hospital. I thought the art style was a bit ugly, but I held my tongue. My girlfriend is very attractive so I figured the artist was just a poor painter.

Then she started to hang up actual photos of her as a baby and turns out the artist was pretty spot on. My girlfriend was one of the ugliest babies I’ve ever seen. She had a huge dented head and her eyes were different shapes and sizes.

Basically all the art work has been replaced by huge photos of her as a baby and one sonogram in the bathroom and the place I call home is now filled with these images I don’t like looking at. And now when I look at my girlfriend, who let me be clear is so out of my league it’s not funny— my friends say I got beyond lucky— I see the baby. I can kind of see the head dent and that her eyes are indeed different sizes. It’s not something I would have noticed before, but now it’s all I see.

She’s noticed that I kind of avoid eye contact with her now and that I stay in the one corner of our apartment without any baby photos and is asking what my deal is. I don’t want to tell her the truth as it would destroy her, but I’m simply not attracted to her anymore.

Am I a dick? I feel horrible for having these thoughts but it’s ruining critical parts of my life, my relationship and my ability to relax at home, and I just don’t know what to do.

March 20th, 2025

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Comments:

CandylandCanada

1 year ago

No wonder you're confused about what to do - within the last six months you've been a man, a woman, a father, a boyfriend and a husband.

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HCIBSW

1 year ago

Thank you for your research, it saved me time.

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Mental-Fox-9449

1 year ago

You moved in with this person. You obviously gave some kind of feelings if you don’t love them (you may love them). What are you going to do when this person gets old and their beauty fades? What will you do if they get into an accident? What about when their body changes when they have a baby? You should take a long, deep look inside yourself and prioritize your life and what’s important.

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Substantial-Air3395

1 year ago

Why would she want her baby pictures all over the apartment, that seems juvenile. That being said. YTA all babies are ugly..

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EmbraceEmber

1 year ago

YTA!!!!

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AssociationLarge8601

1 year ago

YTA unless you wanna bang kids, who cares if she was an ugly baby

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throwitaway3857

1 year ago

YTA. Most babies aren’t cute till they’re older. That being said, grow the fuck up.

Talk to your girlfriend and tell her that it’s too much. While you don’t mind some of her decorating, you want it to be comfortable and both your spaces and youd prefer to have more recent photos of the two of you rather than 30 baby pictures.

In case it’s not clear since you apparently can’t handle a simple conversation: don’t tell her she was an ugly baby.

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[deleted]

1 year ago

Better not let her see your naked baby pictures.... 

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thirdtryisthecharm

1 year ago

YTA for this bait

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EfficientSociety73

1 year ago

YTA Not for feeling like you do because there isn’t anything you can do about it, but for letting her take over your space without just telling her how you feel. If you don’t want the damn pictures up, SAY SO. Grown ups have conversations even when they aren’t nice ones. She sounds incredibly self absorbed OR like she is reminding herself how much better she looks now and she’s proud of it. Either way, the pictures make you uncomfortable so you need to let her know.

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Bibliophile_w_coffee

1 year ago

NTA…but maybe tell her all the baby stuff is odd. Most adults don’t decorate their home with pictures of themselves as a baby. Honestly if feels a bit narcissistic to me (don’t say that) Let her know you’d rather fill your space with pictures of you as a couple, and that all the baby pictures make it feel like she wants you to infantilize her, which isn’t your thing. Either that or she is preggers.

She did keep the chairs and artwork so y’all don’t get charged for that right?

If you are really done, like you don’t want to have kids with her, go ahead and break up.

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[deleted]

1 year ago

Yay yes wtf

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BrazenDonut

1 year ago

All babies start to look like 'real' babies, as the media portrays them to be, as what they look like usually after the 3 month mark.

Go see a couple more newly born baby photos. You'll get desensitized. And also adjust your reality.

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DownShatCreek

1 year ago

There's definitely nothing cray cray about her covering the walls with pictures of herself.

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Spirited-Stage3685

1 year ago

On one level, I find your position hard to fathom. Do any of us look anything like we did as infants? No. This is going come across as harsh but I really don't know any other way to say it but that your slant on life seems a fair bit shallow. If you can't love her for who she is now, you either need to give your head a shake or move on. If you move on, be prepared to have the same reaction when confronted with early pictures of your future partners.

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failedopportunities

1 year ago

5x10 foot! That’s fucking huge! Unless you’re living in a damn mansion I’m seriously questioning your measuring capabilities! Also, never heard of ugly duckling? She should dump your ass for being such an asshole!

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Fast-Opening-1051

1 year ago

Yta How she looked back then has nothing to do with how she looks now.

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[deleted]

1 year ago

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Fast-Opening-1051

1 year ago

Exactly 

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bria99711

1 year ago

There is no way this is real life lol

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failedopportunities

1 year ago

He said it’s a 5 foot by 10 foot painted picture hanging above his fireplace…. No, it’s def not real lol!

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