July 17th, 2025
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What is an appropriate punishment for a kid who’s stupidity almost killed a whole family?
My kid seems to lack the part of his frontal cortex that allows her to see how an action might have consequences. She and her friends had a summer school project to make a music video for their film class. They did a „Mario Kart” parody and without me knowing borrowed my Honda for a shot. They didn’t drive it, but their switched out my washer fluid with some black fluid so they film „black ink” being squirted onto the windshield like happens in the game.
She didn’t tell me nor did she remember to switch it back out and I was later driving on the highway and wanted to flash my lights at a car to indicate it could get in front of me. I pulled the wrong lever and black fluid squirted obscured my visibility, and I immediately pulled over into the shoulder. There was a car ahead of me in the shoulder that I didn’t see until almost too late. I came to a screeching halt and very nearly could have smashed into them.
I’m at a loss. All my daughter said was she was „so so sorry.”
How do I make her realize this cannot happen again?
July 17th, 2025
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magstar222
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StinkiePete
I’m not disagreeing at all here but there’s YouTube tutorials for everything.
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HistoricalSherbet784
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littlebean2421
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OkayDay21
I would have lost my shit so badly in that moment it would have driven the point home.
I feel like I might not believe this series of events though. There must have been a prolonged period where her and her friends were unsupervised for this to happen. Your post is flared 4-9 year olds. How would they know how to pop the hood and switch out the fluid? What WAS the fluid that it obstructed your windshield like that? The clear answer is to supervise your kid and her access to the internet.
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Necessary_Milk_5124
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Technical-Wishbone30
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RichardCleveland
She and her friends had a summer school project to make a music video for their film class.
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its_xaro93
Maybe it's just me but i wouldn't punish my kid for such thing. Sit down, have a serious talk about action, (possible) consequences and thinking ahead.
It may very well have been accidentally by forgetting about it. But you can't prove ill intentions that would justify any punishment.
A serious talk on eye level is almost always better than any sort of punishment
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Cherrycola250ml
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erichie
I thought this was about a kid in the teens. I didn't realize it was a "4-9 year old'.
How did the parents not see what the kids were doing with the car?
How did they even change the fluid? How did they know what lever for the hood and to turn the wipers on? They also needed to turn the car on, or battery mode, to get the wipers on.
How in the world does a kid have the access and time to accomplish this?.
This is the parents fault full stop.
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