October 23rd, 2019
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My Polish boyfriend (32M) wants me (19F) to change my major from Biology to Slavic Studies.
Hi, I'm a pre-med first year at Dartmouth. My bf and I have been dating for a year. He is a phd candidate for Eastern European history.
He has always hinted that he wasn't okay with me studying science, but he never has been direct about it. This changed last month, when we got into a fight. His dad is an anti-science guy and a heavy nationalist, so my bf insists that if we want to get his blessing, I have to give up my major and preferably change to Slavic Studies (not only for his dad but also in order to help out with his research later on).
He's great otherwise, and very caring. He is reasonable in all other regards. And don't even get me started on all the pierogi I get to eat.
What do I do?
TL;DR my bf says it's becoming a doctor or it's him.
October 23rd, 2019
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Biology and pre med > slavic studies... find a guy that respects your choice of degree and helps you achieve your goals.
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Lady_Mog_Mog
Time to end this relationship. Major red flag. He has no right to ask this of you.
Edited - wtf is with your posting history? You’re a shit posting champion.
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lauriehouse
According to another post made by this accoun, hundreds of people use the account.
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sqitten
That is some pretty major disrespect toward you and your values. And he's using his dad as an excuse too. Let's be clear, even if this is purely his dad's views and not his own, he decided that he wants you to make major life changes rather than telling his dad that he's going to be with the person he wants to be with. And then he thinks you should just change your life to better support him. Why shouldn't he study to become a physician's assistant so he can better support you?
Honestly, I think you'll be much happier becoming a doctor than staying with a controlling guy who doesn't respect science or you.
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nathalievictoria50
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tossout7878
You tell him to go fuck himself and then go be a doctor.
This is not a difficult question. Also he's too old.
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Araneae192
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blauotter
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grendelone
Doctor. 100%.
Anyone who wants that much control over you isn't someone you want to be with.
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