October 4th, 2020
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Before you call me an egomaniac, I don't think attractiveness in anyway defines anyone. Maybe the fact that I don't think about it highlights my genetic privilege, but to me it's no different than if I were to say "I have the longest thumb of anyone I know."
I found out how attractive I was in high school. By the end of my senior year, literally 84% (I did the math) of the girls in my class had expressed a to their friends, my friends, or to me personally that they wanted me to fuck them. I've literally never been rejected.
Anyway, I was a Catholic and also a really dedicated student so I didn't want to have sex until college. I did make out with a few girls, but I never did have sex, and it paid off as I got into my dream school. And I was ready to smash.
In my freshman orientation week, I fucked on average 3 girls a day, until I was sexually exhausted and had to take a month off (my dick HURT). In this time, the about 21 girls I screwed were ALL texting me and trying to get me to become their boyfriend. It was at this moment I realized I was incapable of love. I've never loved anyone or anything, not even my family or my pets. I felt bad, but I ghosted all of them and watched them all become emotional wrecks. It became an inside joke in my class that I was the reason that the on campus mental health resources were backlogged to the max. I didn't think this was funny. I cried at what I had done. I made a pact to never have sex with anyone that could lead to this kind of situation again. No playing with anyone's feelings.
But, since I'm still a horny person, I decided the best plan of action was to just hire prostitutes: have the sex with no expectations of romqnde. Since my first month of college, I have not had sex without paying for it. This is my life, and I'm ok with it.
October 4th, 2020
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I'm probably the least attractive of my friends and I have sex all the the and have never paid for it...
I'm not sure why you need to pay for good sex with no attachments.
It isn't my cup of tea (unattached sex) but my (33m) old ass still gets offers more frequently than makes sense to me.
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Yikes my dude.
The way you talk suggests to me you are not that attractive, views and a personality like that pulls you down. But if you are visually appealing, you know you can find people willing to sleep with you and it be just sex as long as you’re upfront about it right? Communication goes a long way and you won’t need to pay anymore.
Maybe iron out your personality, get some morals, be upfront with girls about what you’re looking for so they don’t get hopes up and you’ll be set.
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I just can't love someone idk man. Maybe I need to talk to someone about this but I'm 27 now and I don't know if I can even change
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That is a different issue to casual sex.
I would recommend therapy, I imagine you have the capacity but past experiences can sometimes inhibit us so it may be worth exploring it. Your awareness of how you felt bad about hurting those girls, suggests you’re not a total empty shell emotionally.
But I would also recommend working on your morals, values and personality - be honest about intentions to avoid hurting people and communicate. It’ll get you further than you think, and also at your age - you shouldn’t still be in a college boy mindset. I think some self reflection, therapy and growth will do you wonders.
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Even if you're upfront about your expectations, a lot of people think that they can "change your mind" and that with enough persistence you'll want to date them.
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That is true, I suppose it then comes down to being firm if they try that and don’t give false hope, lead them on or continue things.
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You’re a total fucking weirdo.
If you’re paying for sex you’re not an attractive person. You’re a lonely little self centered fuck who’s gonna die by himself.
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Don't mean to sound harsh but it sounds like you're really insecure about your appearance. If you'd like to talk about it, feel free to PM me!
I’m not the one paying for sex. You’re the one who needs help buddy
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Oh so it's the morals of prostitution that bother you? That's a fair point. Personally, though, I don't see it as unethical or degenerate. But if you're not paying for sex, more power to you bud. To each their own.
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